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dick



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2012 11:11 am    Post subject: Didn't I tell ya' Reply with quote

According to the latest study, men are more romantic, sensitive and willing to commit than the collective American public gives them credit for. So, it’s time for straight women (and gay men) to get with the program and stop making assumptions, because this new data makes a strong case in defense of the oft-maligned American male and his dating behaviors. “Women should be very reassured by this,” says Dr. Fisher. “Even though I get a lot of responses along the lines of ‘that can’t be true’ — it is true.”

“Open your eyes and let your assumptions go,” says Dr. Fisher. “You might miss out on the richness of the male personality.”

So much for the myth that most men are players! “Only 3% of men responded affirmatively to the query, ‘I’d like to date a lot of people.’ 97% are looking for a genuine relationship,” explains Dr. Fisher. In fact, men are more likely to believe in love at first sight, are equally likely to fall in love, believe it’s possible to stay in love forever, and become stressed from loneliness due to lack of a romantic partner.

Men are also more willing to commit to a relationship that’s without romantic love or sexual satisfaction. “Women are going to swallow their forks when they hear that,” says Dr. Fisher. “They have a concept about what men are that doesn’t fit reality. And what is even more surprising is that the majority of these responses are from young men.”

taken from one of the Pictorial subjects at the top of the Yahoo news page--"Politics affect love life"
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Tee



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2012 12:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

In a way I'm surprised by that data; on the other hand, I've known men who went through breakups and were devastated, while the women moved on. One guy was unmarried and in his late 30s and the others were married and in their 40s and 60s. None seemed to be able to move forward and accept it. They were very invested in those relationships and didn't see it coming.

Quite a while ago, I read that men may be so surprised with these kinds of things because the woman has been thinking and maybe even planning a breakup for some time before she announces it. Usually, it's not a spur-of-the-moment reaction with her. The man is clueless and assumes all is good and is blindsided. When men are the initiators of a breakup, they may be a bit more spontaneous, not needing to mull it over quite as much before saying something.

Hearing these men talk and carry on, they appeared no different from women I know who were surprised by a divorce action or breakup. In fact, I think logic finally overtakes a woman's senses and she steps forward. I'm not sure when logic will hit these men, but it hasn't yet. Even when their ex is involved with another person.
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:21 pm    Post subject: Re: Didn't I tell ya' Reply with quote

dick wrote:
So, it’s time for straight women (and gay men) to get with the program and stop making assumption


Why would gay men as opposed to straight men have to stop making assumptions on how men feel? They're men, they'd know how they feel. And of course not all men feel the same - as all women don't. And not all polls are valid nor do they ask all the questions that should be asked.
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2012 7:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm always leery about studies particularly when I don't know how they were conducted or how the pool of men questioned was chosen. My observations are totally subjective and based on all the men I have known as friends, personally, professionally and relatives, and I find that 3% hard to buy unless it was asked of a specific group, age etc.

If you asked a number of men (or women probably) in their 20's I doubt only 3% would want to date a lot of people. If you were asking a group of say divorced men or women in their 40-50s I would guess that number would be low. There are some men I know who never want to marry and some I know of who have wanted to get married from a young age, but on the whole most men I know have wanted, at least in 20s into 30's to date around.

Maybe it's just the people I have known but overwhelmingly from 20's on the women I have known have skewed far more into wanting committed relationships and marriage than the men. I can't say I've heard of many stories of men hinting for rings and hoping their partner will want to commit. I'm not saying I've never heard of it, I can think of a couple examples but overwhelmingly it's been the women looking for the commitment and men eventually acquiescing.
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2012 8:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm also skeptical about studies, but certainly the men I know have very little in common with the usual stereotypes about men. Of course, the women they're with aren't much like the usual stereotypes about women either, which might explain it. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 04, 2012 10:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Damn! An explanation: I nearly always maintain--on these boards--that males are as romantic or more romantic than women. I intended this, taken along with the subject lline, as a joke; I didn't intend that the results of the survey be taken very seriously. I, too, tend to distrust such surveys.



But, for those who wish to read it, the article can be found here (I hope): http://yahoo.match.com/cp.aspx?cpp=/...nnerID=1016778
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Tee



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PostPosted: Sat Feb 04, 2012 12:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

dick wrote:
I, too, tend to distrust such surveys.

Now you tell us. Very Happy
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Tee



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PostPosted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Here's another article to add to your collection on this subject, dick. Kind of along the same lines--don't underestimate (some?) men. Relationships matter more to them than we may think.

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/are-we-afraid-of-men-in-love/
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dick



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PostPosted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 12:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you, Tee. That's an interesting site in addition to an interesting article. And another bit of evidence for "didn't I tell ya'."
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CD



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PostPosted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 3:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Love surveys that tell you what you've always thought! My own experience is definitely that guys are much more romantic and willing to commit than women. However it's one of those things that's impossible to generalise as we all have different experiences.

This is fun article - so true except for the fact that you could replace the word "men" with "people"...
http://www.cracked.com/blog/the-5-reasons-marriage-scares-men-arent-what-you-think/
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

at CD: An amusing article, if a bit too emphatic at times. A lot of the reasons suggested selfishness more than anything else.
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