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Does it bother you when someone dislikes a book you love?
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Schola



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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 8:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I wish I could say that I don't care, but I have to admit I do. Embarassed

Of course, I don't care what the general population thinks of what I like, but I do have an emotional reaction when it's one of my friends who has a negative opinion.

I don't think I'll ever get over one of my best friends dismissing Lisa Kleypas as "porny" and Julia Quinn's Bridgerton books as "overblown teenage Romances"! Razz I did feel slighted, as I had praised both writers when recommending the titles and even put up my own books (something I don't do that often); so her assessment sounded harsher to my ears than she meant it.

Now, my friend likes reading Thrillers, especially Medical Thrillers, and needs a lot of forensic detail in order to enjoy her "light" fiction. So the cause was probably dead in the water.

I'd say that the reason I felt so let down is that I love being able to discuss what I read with others, and it seemed as if I wouldn't be able to do that with such a close friend. Confused
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 8:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Linda in sw va wrote:

Ah yes, this irritates me too! There are some folks that feel they must bash a certain book or character every single time they're mentioned in every thread they come across and I want to say...Enough already, we know! LOL

Linda


Yes, that's when I worry that someone is just a little too emotionally invested for my comfort. It creeps me out when someone takes the behavior of a fictional character and uses it as an excuse to deliver behavioral lectures and lessons about real life. Jeez, it's only fiction and we're all adults here. Smile
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 9:16 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

[quote="Schola"]+IHS+

I wish I could say that I don't care, but I have to admit I do. Embarassed

Of course, I don't care what the general population thinks of what I like, but I do have an emotional reaction when it's one of my friends who has a negative opinion.

I don't think I'll ever get over one of my best friends dismissing Lisa Kleypas as "porny" and Julia Quinn's Bridgerton books as "overblown teenage Romances"! Razz I did feel slighted, as I had praised both writers when recommending the titles and even put up my own books (something I don't do that often); so her assessment sounded harsher to my ears than she meant it.




Personally, I wouldn't try to borrow a romance novel right off the bat to my book-borrowing friends in RL. None of them read romance. They haven't said as much, but the books I have borrowed from them aren't romance. However, I have over the years given them Emily Giffen, Diane Gabaldon, Marsha Moyer, The Time Traveler's Wife and a slew of other books not defined as romance, but still are romance to me. I feel if I were to give them romance outright, they may turn up their nose at it. I guess I don't want to set myself up for that, but I do find a niche every now and then to give them what I think is romance anyway...and they eat it up like ice cream. They have loved all the books I mentioned and more. To me, they are reading romance.
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Schola



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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 3:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

xina wrote:
Personally, I wouldn't try to borrow a romance novel right off the bat to my book-borrowing friends in RL. None of them read romance. They haven't said as much, but the books I have borrowed from them aren't romance. However, I have over the years given them Emily Giffen, Diane Gabaldon, Marsha Moyer, The Time Traveler's Wife and a slew of other books not defined as romance, but still are romance to me. I feel if I were to give them romance outright, they may turn up their nose at it. I guess I don't want to set myself up for that, but I do find a niche every now and then to give them what I think is romance anyway...and they eat it up like ice cream. They have loved all the books I mentioned and more. To me, they are reading romance.


The thing is that she asked to read Kleypas and Quinn! So the message I got was, "Schola loves these writers. Why don't I give them a try? . . . Oh, yuck: porn! . . . Eeew! Teenage romance! . . . Schola has such bad taste." Laughing
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 10:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Naah, it doesn't bother me at all. There are many authors whose books I wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole, yet they seem to have quite a lot of followers. That's okay with me, and it won't change my opinion of those authors one bit. It's a personal choice, like clothing, or shoes, what I like may not work for another.
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 10:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

The only instance I've had this happen was when I leant a copy of Bitten (audio verison) to a friend, and she told me it gave her nightmares. I felt genuinely bad. I don't want to give anyone nightmares! Clearly I misjudged what she would like.

I think the more I love a book, the more criticism of it will bother me, but everyone is entitled to their opinon... Differences make good sparks.
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 1:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've met authors on-line who have written some of the worst romance novels in history. Generally, they're very nice people. If they could find another line of work, I'd like them even better. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 7:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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The only instance I've had this happen was when I leant a copy of Bitten (audio verison) to a friend, and she told me it gave her nightmares. I felt genuinely bad. I don't want to give anyone nightmares! Clearly I misjudged what she would like.


Oh, I don't know, Lady Naava - I read Tom Harris's Red Dragon about 25 years ago and slept with the lights on for two weeks. At least. Great book but it scared the socks off me. I'll admit that I haven't read a Tom Harris since. That man is just too darned good at his job Embarassed . Some of us are just wimps and I include myself in that!

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PostPosted: Mon Jul 07, 2008 7:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The thing is that she asked to read Kleypas and Quinn! So the message I got was, "Schola loves these writers. Why don't I give them a try? . . . Oh, yuck: porn! . . . Eeew! Teenage romance! . . . Schola has such bad taste." Laughing[/quote]



Well, if she asked for those authors, she should at least have the decency to not make fun of your taste in books. I introduced my (now) ex-SIL to Quinn and Kleypas and she loved those books. She was a new romance reader. It was a great feeling passing off some knowledge about some fantastic romance authors. I think my feelings would be hurt if my non-romance reading friends asked for the authors then...spit on them. I would get my "panties in a wad"..that is for sure. The nerve. Rolling Eyes
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NB



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PostPosted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 3:06 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

willaful wrote:
People just have different tastes--even people whose tastes usually agree with mine can go vastly off the rails sometimes.


I quite agree -- different tastes and perhaps different ways of looking at things. And those readers whose book tastes are similar to mine, I doubt their reasons for liking those books are exactly similar as well. Just an example, some years ago an online acquaintance said to me something along the line 'You seem to like your characters tortured! I love this type too.' It made me pause because I never ever posted having a preference for tortured characters or raved over them (though I had some theory how she managed to come to that conclusion).
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Does it bother you when someone dislikes a book you love?


LOL - to be real honest with myself, yes it does. But I'm not going to say anything since the more realistic part of me knows that we all have different taste and just because I really liked a certain book, doesn't mean everyone will.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 10:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

LeeB. wrote:
I don't mind if people hate books I love. Everyone has different tastes.

But it does annoy me if a person disses what I think is a really great book but has only read a few chapters and then given up. If you can't read the entire book, just say you couldn't get into it. That's a better comment -- to me -- than disparaging the book.


Ok this annoys me to no end. Whenever I am interested in a book, I usually go to Amazon to check out reviews and check out the one stars. More often than not, a person says, 'I hated it, only finished one chapter, threw the book away'. Then why did you bother reviewing it, if you didnt read the entire work? That must be very frustrating to an author. I know I've read books that have started off where I hated the characters and grew to love them over time. (I guess I'm just one of those people who needs to finish a book, even if its horrible and I have to skim a lot or needs to finish a movie even when I hate it)

I have one book now where I have read the first chapter three times and cannot go any further. It has gotten excellent reviews and I love the author usually. I vow someday I will finish it, but I would never dish the author or the book because I cant get into it right now.
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lynno



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PostPosted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 12:46 am    Post subject: Re: Does it bother you when someone dislikes a book you love Reply with quote

[quote="JulieR"][ (By the way, the book was [b]A Confederacy of Dunces[/b], and I am apparently much in the minority in hating the book, which won a Pulitzer Prize. [/quote]Ahh, one of my most hated books ever, no lol.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 4:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I also think it's frustrating when a person trashes a book without seeming to give it a chance. It's not about not finishing the book - I've done that many times - but I think, as a reader, I have a sense of a book starting off slowly opposed to a book that I just won't like, if that makes sense. I've loved many books that dragged a little at the beginning (one of my favourites, All Quiet on the Western Front, immediately comes to mind -I didn't like it until chapter 6 or so, over 100 pages into the novel). I feel like you honestly have to give a book a shot to be able to say what you don't like about it, you know? And that doesn't mean finishing it - I've given up on my share - but sticking with it long enough to figure out exactly what you didn't like about it before you run off and write a review.
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Susan/DC



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PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 5:10 pm    Post subject: Slow Starts Reply with quote

RichMissTallant wrote:
I've loved many books that dragged a little at the beginning (one of my favourites, All Quiet on the Western Front, immediately comes to mind -I didn't like it until chapter 6 or so, over 100 pages into the novel)


Ain't that the truth. There have been books that I was ready to drop after 50 or so pages: The Poisonwood Bible, Empire Falls, Jude the Obscure, for example. If I'd been reading for my own pleasure I wouldn't have pushed on because at that point I was bored, but I was reading for book club or at my son's recommendation or for a class. I was very glad I finished the books because I found much to admire and even love in each case.

OTOH, there have been books I actively disliked and did not finish, and in those cases I don't think reading any farther would have helped. I remember starting Jonathan Franzen's The Corrections and asking my husband if any of the characters were remotely likable. When he said no, I returned the book unread to the friend who had lent it to us.
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