Do you believe in "soulmates"? Or that there's tha

bookmark · Joined: 06 Nov 2007 Posts: 300

special person for "you"? Does that notion even exist anymore?

My idealistic side really, really want to believe it and love the idea of it. Maybe that's why I love and read the type of romance novels that I love. Realistically, though, I don't believe in it anymore (I haven't for a while now), and I do feel a little sad about that. Just because, for me (I can't assume it's necessarily the same for others), it feels like it signifies my more cynical, jaded outlook.

Pretty much, now, I feel love is wherever one finds it and with whomever. It's hard to know whether the person one's with is one's soulmate or not, because the relationship didn't last for whatever reason and because many people can fall in love and feel just as strongly for each person in that relationship at that time. People can and do have many loves in their lifetime.

Linda in sw va · Joined: 27 Mar 2007 Posts: 4708

Bookmark, I do believe in soul mates, but maybe easy for me to say because I found mine. When we met, so much odd stuff happened that brought us together in that moment that we can't help but feel the universe arranged it. When we met, we knew. I do also think that soul mates can come in the form of friendship or that there are times when our perfect match can come along in our life but is ony meant to be there for a time. I'm so thankful for my first love, even though he was not my last.

I don't believe in soul mates in the way that they're represented most often in romance novels, funny enough. Romance novels to me often portray the relationship as power struggles, or one always chasing the other or trying to one up each other. I guess that's more interesting than...they met and they knew, haha.

Linda
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dick · Joined: 22 Mar 2007 Posts: 2263

If everyone had to wait for a "soul mate," the human race would probably cease to exist. Most relationships depend upon accident and propinquity, propinquity being the most important of the two, even in romance fiction. It's always possible, of course, that all accidents happen correctly and bring them into proximity. But the odds of that, except when an author's involved, are not very good.

Niftybergin · Joined: 27 Mar 2007 Posts: 1068

I don't. I also don't believe that there's a love match out there for everyone.

xina · Joined: 22 Mar 2007 Posts: 6630 Location: minneapolis

My parents had a fantastic relationship. If I were to believe in soul mates, their relationship would be why. The only thing is, they were a hard act to follow. LOL.
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Susan/DC · Joined: 26 Mar 2007 Posts: 1602

I do believe in soul mates, but I don't believe that there's necessarily only one for each of us -- I actually find that idea very sad. Life can be so fragile that I would like to think that we can find love again. It won't be exactly the same as the first love, but it may be equally wonderful in its own way. Last Sunday's Washington Post magazine had a beautiful, heartwarming story about a woman blessed enough to have found two marvelous men. I hope the link comes through because I think it's a very romantic story.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/a-family-learns-the-true-meaning-of-the-vow-in-sickness-and-in-health/2011/11/04/gIQAahyAdP_story.html

FriendlyFace · Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 136

Susan, thanks so much for the link to the article - it was a wonderful read.

Regarding the original thread question...I do not believe in soul mates. I believe in good matches, though.

Bev

D Rogers · Joined: 31 Jul 2009 Posts: 150

I don't believe you can find them, but if you are smart about the person you pick as your mate, and if you are willing to work hard at your marriage or partnership, you can make one.

Denise

EDavis · Joined: 04 Feb 2013 Posts: 22 Location: Netherlands

I actually do believe in them. I study a lot of metaphysics and teach many different concepts.

Here's a link on soul mates that I have looked over lately. You might find it interesting.

http://www.twinsoulrevelations.org/

I definitely went through a lot of life lesson's to eventually reach a place where I was able to meet a great man.

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WandaSue · Joined: 29 Mar 2007 Posts: 277

Nah, I don't believe in "soul mates." Lots of books have been written on the subject, many of which I read in the mid-90's, when I got divorced from my first husband and was devastatingly lonely.

When I read that soul mates are of the moment, and that the connection can fade when the two parties grow, I thought, "Yeah, ok, whatever," and decided that what a lot of people consider a "soul mate" is really just the excitement of new love, new lust, and fresh discovery.

Niftybergin · Joined: 27 Mar 2007 Posts: 1068

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Vol Fan · Joined: 30 Dec 2008 Posts: 285 Location: Tennessee