Comments on: Romance and Cultural Expectations

By: Cordie Bellew

Cordie Bellew — Tue, 24 Jul 2012 08:14:57 +0000

Yet another issue is that video gaming became one of the all-time largest forms of excitement for people of every age group. Kids have fun with video games, plus adults do, too. Your XBox 360 is probably the favorite video games systems for many who love to have hundreds of activities available to them, in addition to who like to play live with others all over the world. Many thanks for sharing your notions.

By: First CK blog post and… « oconnellauthor blog

First CK blog post and… « oconnellauthor blog — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 10:29:36 +0000

[...] reviewing more westerns lately.) However, somehow I managed to miss the blog post titled Romance and Cultural Expectations, which is to say I missed a more polite version (after all AAR is moderated) of the same type of [...]

By: xina

xina — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 17:34:55 +0000

Ugh. If only there were an edit key! I know this thread has died a slow death and everyone has picked up their toys and gone home, but I meant to type *necessary* instead of *unnecessary*.
That is all..

By: xina

xina — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 19:15:41 +0000

bavarian: Wow, I never thought to read such a heated and hateful discussion, with so strong believes and so full of self-righteousness on this board. So much thinking totally in black and white.It’s like a pendulum: First we had the excuses for rapists dominating “culture”, now we have the other extreme: Zero tolerance of even the slightest shade of grey. Some reactions to dick’s (rather slight) provocations are so over the top I find it disturbing. Ridley even brings her hostility against dick to another board and a totally different topic calling him even there a rape apologist.

That is why I find it unnecessary to contribute nothing. I just discovered this last night and it's the same old, same old from posters who love the fray. It could be interesting, but turns hateful. Nobody learns anything that way.

By: Ridley

Ridley — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 01:03:49 +0000

So revictimizing women who have been raped by implying that decisions they have made – clothing choice, taste in romance novels – led a rapist to assault them is okay, but pointing out someone’s argument as blatant rape apology isn’t.

Interesting.

By: Tee

Tee — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 23:16:12 +0000

So true, bavarian. Unfortunately, there are some related topics that, when discussed here (and elsewhere I’m sure), the posts inevitably turn in this direction. No matter whether one agrees or disagrees with dick (and a few others) on their statements, it never calls for the type of name-calling they receive. There will never be true consensus on such a heated topic, but getting down and dirty doesn’t work either.

Leigh, right on. Continue to do the wonderful work you’re doing and attempting to learn more about how to educate girls.

By: bavarian

bavarian — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 20:14:28 +0000

Wow,
I never thought to read such a heated and hateful discussion, with so strong believes and so full of self-righteousness on this board. So much thinking totally in black and white.

It’s like a pendulum: First we had the excuses for rapists dominating “culture”, now we have the other extreme: Zero tolerance of even the slightest shade of grey.
Some reactions to dick’s (rather slight) provocations are so over the top I find it disturbing. Ridley even brings her hostility against dick to another board and a totally different topic calling him even there a rape apologist.

By: Meoskop

Meoskop — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 17:32:58 +0000

Meoskop: Emily Post is a rape apologist? Wow. The more you know.

Clarifying - obviously I don't think Post or Sunita are the rape apologists. Nor do I think either are presumptuous. I do feel dick is advocating a pro rape position that either stems from advanced trollery or a deep seated belief that women are to blame for the criminal actions of men. "She deserved it" never gets old, does it? Rapists rape for their own reasons, from their own choices, on their own accord. If you are raped, it is not your fault. If you are abused, it is not your fault. If you choose, as a community, to accept someone one telling you otherwise then you need to examine your own internalized misogyny & that's your own problem. I respect anyone willing to look a rape apologist in the face and call them out on it, but I also respect a person's right to choose. Your internet relationships sre your own. Let me ask you this - If someone, anyone, tells you that rape is something you can cause to happen, can deserve, can bring on - why is that person in your life? And thus the flounce. See you in another decade, AAR.

By: Meoskop

Meoskop — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 17:20:07 +0000

dick: @Sunita:Not only ad hominem but presumptuous…unless, of course, you’ve been elected the new Emily Post of the internet?

Emily Post is a rape apologist? Wow. The more you know.

By: dick

dick — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 13:13:11 +0000

@Sunita: Not only ad hominem but presumptuous…unless, of course, you’ve been elected the new Emily Post of the internet?