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Cookies (and more) for those who hate to cook

Thursday, December 20th, 2012

Years ago, in holidays past, I enjoyed cooking.  Now, four kids and a two decades later, it’s not my thing. In fact, I go to great lengths to avoid actually making food. My family survives on grocery pre-made goodies, a host of frozen main dishes from Trader Joe’s, and their wits. So, when the AAR staff decided to share their favorite holiday cookie recipes, I was sure I’d have nothing to contribute. But, as Blythe pointed out, I’m probably not the only non-cooker in our readership. And, upon occasion, even those of us who avoid the kitchen do have to produce “home made” baked goods.

So, for those whom home-made treats are something other people do, here are few easy short cuts.

1) Buy slice and bake gingerbread cookies, roll them into little balls and dunk them into colored sugar. Cook them for 2/3 the time on the label. They’ll be soft, sweet, and mildly festive.

2) Make boxed brownies but add a bag of chocolate fudge pudding, a cup of chocolate chips, and a teaspoon of vanilla to the mixture. Bake according to what it says on the box. Let cool completely before cutting. You’ll have deeply fudgy brownies the chocoholics in your life will love.

3) Dump a bag of frozen berries into a rectangular baking pan. Add in a package of vanilla pudding and a teaspoon of vanilla. Mix thoroughly. In another bowl, melt a stick of butter. Add a cup of granola, a cup of quick oats, and a cup of brown sugar. Mix together and put on top of berry mixture. Bake at 350 for 45 minutes. Serve with vanilla ice-cream and tell your kids it’s a “healthy” dessert because it has fruit and fiber.

4) Get to know the best frozen desserts at your grocery store. I–and my family–will vouch for almost anything in the Trader Joe’s cake and pie section. In fact, it’s hard to beat TJ’s frozen New York Cheesecake (the one in the blue box) or their Chocolate Ganache Torte. Both vanish the minute I put them on our kitchen counter.

5) Instead of bringing baked goods to the party, show up with a good but inexpensive bottle of bubbly. Your hosts won’t mind a bit!

Happy holidays!

Dabney AAR

Every Sunday, it’s “Modern Love”

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

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Every Sunday morning, cup of coffee in hand, I rifle through the three papers we have delivered each weekend morn, and find the Modern Love column in the New York Times. I’ve read it regularly for the past twenty years. If you’ve never read it, the Modern Love columns are, as defined by their editors, “deeply personal essays about contemporary relationships, marriage, dating, parenthood…any subject that might reasonably fit under the heading “Modern Love”.” The columns are well-written, succinct snippets of the emotional lives of others. Some are funny, some are enlightening, many will break your heart. (more…)

“Winter’s Bone” and its Katniss Everdeen ready star

Wednesday, January 25th, 2012
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One of my two New Year’s resolutions is to see more movies. I’ve spent the last few years reading rather than watching. It’s not just I don’t go to the movies–the only movie I saw in theaters in 2011 was the last Harry Potter. I have also stopped watching movies at home and, by the end of last year, I felt both culturally out of sorts and distressed I’d missed films others raved about. I’ve yet to make it to the theater this month–I’ve still got another week!–but I have been watching movies at home with my husband. Last weekend we watched MoneyballI thought it was good, not great and that both Jonah Hill and Phillip Seymour Hoffman outshone Brad Pitt–and, a film I thought was stunning: Winter’s Bone. (more…)

A Walk on the Moon

Wednesday, January 18th, 2012
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This weekend, I watched A Walk on the Moon for what must be the fifth time. Not only do I think it has one of the sexiest scenes ever filmed; it’s a great lens on the culture shock felt by so many in the US in the late 1960’s. The acting is superb–the film showcases Diane Lane and Viggo Mortensen and is a great vehicle for Anna Pacquin, Liev Schreiber, and Tovah Feldshuh. (Listen closely–the PA announcer is voiced by the incomparable Julie Kavner.) (more…)

Say Thursday

Wednesday, January 11th, 2012

DSC06323There’s nothing like trying to take a family photo to convince me that Plato was right: we can only conceive of perfection and never actually attain it.  Year after year, trip after trip, my family has tried to take that perfect photo where each of us looks happy, natural, and–and this is key–at the camera. We’ve come close, but never actually succeeded. My comparatively small family of six, however, is more successful than my extended family (parents, siblings and their families) of 24. That group tries each year to take one picture of all 24 of us, together, on the same set of lobby steps in Western North Carolina where we’ve been vacationing since I was a child. We’ve never once had a photo where even 75% of us managed to look happy, natural, and at the camera.

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I am loving playing “Video Games”… the song

Saturday, December 10th, 2011

YouTube Preview ImageLast week my wonderful niece Lucy posted this video on my Facebook page and since then I’ve listened to Video Games about a hundred times. There’s something about Lana Del Rey’s voice, her lyrics, and the slow majestic music I find irresistible.   The song strikes me as truly romantic–not schmaltzy or sappy, but somehow connected to the way lovers actually experience each other.  I love the chorus with its refrain of  “it’s you, it’s you,” and the way the song ends with a few simple notes played on the piano. (more…)

Have you met Lera Lynn?

Monday, November 28th, 2011

http://www.vimeo.com/15874929A few weeks ago, my sister, who lives in Athens, Georgia, asked me if I’d heard of Athens singer/songwriter Lera Lynn.  I said no. She said, “You gotta check her out. I think you’ll love her.” A few clicks of my mouse later and I had a new favorite singer. (I still love you, Adele.) Lera just released her debut album Have You Met LERA LYNN? which is climbing up the Americana charts and–I’ll bet–will soon make its way to the country charts. (more…)

“Does she or doesn’t she?”

Saturday, November 5th, 2011

nice hairWomen in America spend a lot of money on their hair. And whether they go to a salon or do it at home, a whopping 75% color their locks. For years, I went to a salon and paid someone else to cut, color, and highlight my hair. I’d go every ten to twelve weeks and each time, it would cost over $100. And each time, when I’d return home, my husband would mutter about paying so much for something so easy to do. (He’s cut his own hair for years.)

So, a couple of years ago, I decided I’d do it all myself. I read online about how to cut hair and experimented carefully first with all over color and then with highlights. Now, I’ve got it down… and I’ve never liked the way my hair looks more!

I find the coloring easier to do than the cutting. To color my hair and add highlights, I use Loreal’s two step product Couleur Experte Express in Brioche (described on the box as a light golden brown.)  It’s a nice product and easy to use. (I buy it on Amazon for $12.) I have brownish red hair naturally and am just starting to see a few grey hairs. The coloring/highlighting takes about an hour from start to finish and leaves my hair feeling strong and smooth.

The cutting is a bit trickier. I have fine hair I layer. The hairs in front are the easiest to cut — I pull my “bangs” in front of my eyes, brush them so they’re straight, and put a piece of tape over them. Then I cut along the bottom of the tape. This leaves the hair at the sides longer than that in front. (I usually chunk out little pieces for a less clean line.)  I do the same process with the other two layers of my hair but without the tape. I pull the hair to the front of my face, brush it straight, and cut it in a straight line.

One nice thing about cutting my own hair is that I trim it far more often than I would if I had to pay to do so. This keeps the split ends at bay and also makes my hair less likely to frizz in North Carolina’s humid weather.

It’s working for me and I love saving all that money! How about you? Do you do your own hair? Got any tips to share if you do?

- Dabney AAR

IAM2BZ

Wednesday, October 12th, 2011

4c76898757bc71.33152371frogview-galleryI love customized license plates. What’s not to like? They’re fairly cheap–in my state it’s $30 a year, all of which goes to improve the roads–and are so often amusing. My family and I always try and decode them and feel a fun sense of accomplishment when we do. I live in a town small enough to see many of the same plates over and over again. Today I thought I’d share some of my favorites.

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What do you give to?

Wednesday, October 5th, 2011

Recently my family and I were fortunate to be involved in the creation of a Habitat House.  We watched the house being built–we were on the sponsoring side rather than the building side–and, every week, seeing the house take form was a wonderful thing. It got me thinking about giving and what people give–time, money, ideas, energy–to.

I’m not a religious person and thus do not tithe and am not involved at a church. But I love being a volunteer and have done everything from coaching little kids soccer to chairing the governing committee at my children’s high school. Currently I serve on the Board of my local YMCA and, as a small business owner, try and support many of my town’s charitable events. (more…)